Mommy's vs Mommy's ..
One of the biggest issues I've had since being a Mommy - is getting advice .. Well, not advice, more like "demands" .. You need to try this .. You've got to try that .. DO NOT do this .. You did what??
Also, the fact that women who DO NOT have children & try to give me advice .. am i right or am i right?
First and foremost .. My son is on a schedule .. a very tight one .. He is in daycare full time Monday - Friday from 8am-5pm .. He gets one nap at daycare from 12pm-2pm .. When he gets home, he gets a short evening nap so he re-energize .. When he spends the night with my Mom or with Brent's side of the family, I ask them to please keep him on his schedule AS CLOSE as possible .. Will I get upset if he gets a nap from 11-1? No .. C'mon, I'm an anal bitch, but not by much .. I ask that he DOES NOT sleep in bed with anyone .. This also, start bad habits .. and lastly, I ask he not be fed junky greasy food, soda, or something with TONS of sugar .. Is that too much to ask for? Any other Mommy's like me??
Fact - My son spent the night with my Mom last Saturday .. That was his first time spending the night away from home, in at least 6-7 months .. Of course, he was given cookies and soda .. When he stays with Nana, that's fine .. you can give him sugar and deal with him lol .. Not my problem .. He doesn't get to bed until 10pm .. Then is back up at 3:45am .. He slept in bed .. Fast forward to Sunday night .. He didn't want to go to bed at his normal bedtime .. Being the tired Mom I am, I wanted him in bed by 8pm .. He had other plans .. He was up until 10pm .. Then, like clockwork, 3:45am rolls around, he is awake .. It's been like this for the past week .. Mind you, he was sleeping through the night before I let him spend the night ..
Do I like to be a bitch of a Mom & ask too much? NO .. but not listening to me or taking my parenting requests seriously, causes havoc on my life .. Do you not think I'd like to have a break and let Bryce stay overnight once in a while? Um, because I would love that .. It's becoming more of a problem, then a reward .. No one seems to realize that a routine is needed for a child .. Do I break this schedule at times? Yes, of course .. I don't like to be restricted to the house from 12-2 because Bryce needs a nap .. But we always make sure to compensate and give him his naps .. 2 hour & a 30-45 minute one ..
Next issue - crying it out .. I have NO idea how some Mommy's do this - let alone, some of you probably do NOT have the loud mouth screaming child that I have .. When he wakes up, he will NOT self soothe .. No matter what I try .. I've read books, watched videos, asked everyone, taken opinions .. Nothing will work .. Unless I physically pick him up, rock him back to sleep, or put him in bed with me until he falls asleep .. (then of course he goes right back into his crib) .. I just don't understand .. Some Mom's will say "oh it only lasts for a few minutes" .. scuse' me? Few minutes? When trying this method, my son has gone 90 minutes .. to the point where he can't even catch his breath .. Little scary for me .. After we had that scare, I refuse to let it happen again .. We took him to the Pediatrician's to make sure he was ok, & basically he was diagnosed with night terrors & separation anxiety .. YAY!!
Now, don't get me wrong .. Yes, I complain .. I'm allowed .. Being a mother is anything but easy .. I feel as though Mother's don't get enough credit .. Whether we work full time or not, our jobs NEVER stop .. We don't get sick days .. We don't get many breaks .. I mean, some do .. But I'm not one of those mother's who can just throw their child off on other people .. He's mine .. My responsibility .. Unless I'm dying or bleeding to death, I will be there .. I have no problems with him spending time with his family to give me a break .. But it's not something I ask for .. If it's offered, I take it ..
Anywhoooo .. On a much happier note .. it's Friday!!! :) Yesterday when I got home from work, I checked my mailbox and inside was the MOST adorable package I've ever seen .. I recently won a blog giveaway for an amazing necklace that reads "Pressure Makes Diamonds" .. I am in love with it! Anyone who is not already following Veronika @ Veronika's Kandy Koated Dreams - you NEED too .. Talk about the most amazing giveaways EVER! Oh, and did I mention - she is currently giving away a freaking LOUIS VUITTON BAG!! Go follow, tell her I sent you, and enter this amazing giveaway!!
Tomorrow I am off to my first Fall Fest this year .. Can't wait to take my little Boo! :) Happy Friday to everyone!! I'm going to leave you with the cutest face ever!! :) xoxo <3 & a new pic of Me & Baby Daddy!
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